It helps if I keep telling myself this. It encourages me to grow in me and not because of or for others. Criticism from others is not one of my favorite things. Probably because I am so hard on myself, when others notice attributes or whatever which needs changed, I poke at those parts of me hard.
I am going to be a rock instead of sand. Smoothed by the water, but not obliterated and moved. I will embrace the shining bits and observe and learn from the darker ones. If the water and temperatures cause me to crack, well, I reckon there will just be more of me to go around!